Foreplay – what is it? What should it look like and how long should Foreplay last?

Successful foreplay not only has a great impact on the quality of the couple’s sexual life, but also helps to deepen the emotional relationship in the relationship. Common conversations, flirting, and experiencing something exciting together – bring you closer.

Foreplay is all that precedes intercourse and builds up sexual tension between partners that increases excitement . There is no one right way of what it should look like. The most important thing is that both partners are satisfied and that its duration is long enough for both of them to achieve a level of excitement high enough for their intercourse to end in orgasm .

The typical elements of foreplay are:

• flirting – it’s good to build tension, so spicy conversations and hitting the other side can be a great way to pump up emotions in the bedroom. Sometimes, gentle compliments are enough, drawing attention to how sexy the other side looks. An interesting idea is a flirt that can be started many hours before the planned intercourse, e.g. spicy text messages, e-mails or sending photos (not necessarily erotic – it may be e.g. a photo of a bottle of wine that you can drink together in the evening);
• kissing and cuddling – this type of stimulation can be extremely sensual and stimulating. A gentle touch can perfectly build tension and prepare both partners for further caresses;
• stimulation of intimate places – it is good if it is preceded by gentle caresses. Which intimate parts should be touched depends on the preferences of the partners – most often in the case of women, the breasts / nipples and the area around the labia and clitoris are stimulated , and in the case of men, the penis and scrotum (testicles).

The purpose of the foreplay

The goal of foreplay is to prepare the body (genitals) for intercourse . It is believed to be needed by women more than men, and there is quite a lot of truth to this, although that does not mean that men do not need caresses or erotic games to achieve full excitement. The female body usually takes longer to achieve the excitement that will enable successful penetration. If the woman is not yet ready for it (her vagina is not moisturized enough), pain , and even abrasions and minor bleeding may appear .

A successful foreplay has a great impact not only on the quality of the couple’s sexual life , but also helps to deepen the emotional relationship . Common conversations, flirting and experiencing something exciting together bring you closer.

How long should foreplay last?

The main determinant is what the partners expect. As a rule, women take about 20-30 minutes for their bodies to be fully ready for intercourse. Men need much less time – sometimes just a few minutes is enough . However, this is not a rule, it all depends on the needs, situation and how the person feels. People living under a lot of stress may take much longer to fully relax. This time also depends on how foreplay looks like and what stimuli are provided by the partners. Therefore, it is worth introducing novelties to the bedroom, a surprised partner can become aroused much faster.

How to spice up foreplay?

Novelties in the bedroom can work wonders, not only improve the quality of sexual life, but can improve relationships between partners. Introducing new products is especially important for long-term couples . What to do to make foreplay unconventional?

1. It is important to talk – the first rule to a successful sex life is to know your partner’s sexual preferences and fantasies. Many people are very surprised when, after an honest conversation, it turns out that they shared the same erotic fantasies with their partner for a long time , but by not admitting to them, deprived themselves of the possibility of their realization;
2. To start with small things – it’s not about changing your intimate life right away, sometimes a little thing is enough to rebuild the tension between the couple before. Do not worry that the partners will reach for something banal, the most important thing is that both are satisfied. That is why classic solutions such as candles, sexy lingerie or a glass of wine or champagne will always be appreciated;
3. Do not give up what was – remember about previous experiences with your partner. You can think about diversifying what the couple has already done, e.g. if a couple likes sensual massages, you can buy an aromatic oil or an intimate gel (it can be used for intimate places);
4. You can try experiments – trying something that a couple has never done before can totally change the perception of intimacy. Remember not to put your partner in front of a fait accompli in such cases. You can ask directly what the partner thinks about a given idea, and if it is to be a surprise, it is good to delicately investigate what the partner thinks about such practices;
5. You can think about using sex gadgets – there are countless items on the market that can spice up foreplay and help the couple experience more pleasure during intercourse, including vibrators, geisha balls, handcuffs, erotic underwear, costumes, whips, erotic movies. A trip to a sex shop or a joint search on the Internet for the perfect gadget for a couple may turn out to be enough to stimulate this sphere of life.

Ideas for a successful foreplay

• Shared bath – is a great way to de-stress. What the bath will look like depends only on the partners, e.g. you can light candles in the bathroom, turn on romantic music, give each other massages and wash each other.
• Sexy lingerie – men are very sensitive to visual sensations, so sexy lingerie can pleasantly surprise your partner. The same applies to men who can also surprise their partner with new underwear.
• Massage not necessarily erotic – discovering the body anew, focusing on parts of the body other than intimate places. A gentle massage of the head, back or feet can be a perfect introduction to the love game.
• Erotic movie – it’s an interesting idea to diversify the foreplay. What a movie it will be depends on the partners. You can reach for a delicate and subtle material or watch something bolder.
• Spending more time with yourself – being alone and relaxing for a while may be the easiest way to arouse desire. Sometimes it is enough to turn off the phones and just enjoy yourself. Such a moment of relaxation can be a great introduction to something more.